What kind of writer are you? Do you prefer pen and paper, writing longhand or is typing easier for you? Are you an extroverted writer that shares with everyone or an introverted writer who keeps it private? I’m a pen and paper writer. It doesn’t really seem like writing without the tactile experience of the ink flowing onto the paper. I’ve also been a very private writer, hardly ever sharing with others.
Writing in a journal has been my primary form of spiritual practice for years. It’s personal and intimate, but something that I don’t share. Blogging has caused me to consider how my writing is received by others, real readers. Does my writing really express what I mean? Only real readers can say.
I used to write a lot of handwritten letters, but over the years I got out of practice with advent of email. I was reminded of this when I discovered The Art of the Handwritten Note: A Guide to Reclaiming Civilized Communication by Margaret Shepherd. This quick read inspired me to revive my practice of writing personal notes in my own handwriting. I am normally not a very goal oriented person, but I set a goal for myself to write two or three notes each day. This challenged me to be more observant, and look for opportunities to express my appreciation to coworkers, friends and even strangers.
Many books and articles on gratitude recommend writing down five or ten things per day that you are grateful for. I even read one article that suggested making a list of one hundred different things that you are grateful for. This stretches your concepts beyond the usual default things on the list, like spouse, kids, yummy food and sunshine.
It is one thing to write your gratitude list late at night alone in your room or in the privacy of your journal. No one will ever see it (unless you have a snoop in the house) so you don’t have to sweat the penmanship, grammar or spelling. It can even be in a personal shorthand.
It is quite another thing to write out a thank you note that you are going mail to someone. You want the recipient be able to read your handwriting, understand your grammar and spelling. You want them to feel appreciated. You want to make their day.
Thank you notes are the simplest notes to write. As a recently diagnosed Celiac patient, I started writing thank you notes to considerate and helpful wait-staff at restaurants with gluten-free selections on their menus. It’s like saying grace after the meal.
Synchronistically, while starting on this grateful journey, I ran across Almost Home, a cute story of a homeless sixth grader about Sugar Mae Cole and her adopted dog. The author, Joan Bauer, won a Newbery Honor Medal for an earlier novel, Hope Was Here. This is a story with epistolary elements that spice it up and give this serious subject quite a bit of humor. I have a thing for epistolary literature (blog post to follow). The story is sprinkled with poems, homework assignments, emails and thank you notes. She also describes a thank you note game, that inspired this post.
I’m not going to spoil your fun and let the cat out of the bag by describing the game. I’ll let you dig for this nugget of gold on your own. The description of the game encouraged me to redouble my efforts to find reasons to send thank you notes. Sugar Mae even finds ways to send thank you notes with a twist by finding unique ways to thank people for negative experiences.
That’s where I received my epiphany on the thank you note as a spiritual practice. It is a quite a challenge to find the silver lining in a difficult situation or a negative interaction. Expressing it gracefully with the sincere intention to turn the situation around and brighten someone’s day isn’t easy. It requires mindfulness, intention and prayer. Writing the note, and sending it, is where the spiritual rubber of gratitude practice meets the rough road of daily life.
If you want to get started on your own journey of gratitude, Amazon.com has quite a selection of delightful note cards that will help you get inspired. At the time of this writing, Peter Pauper has a 4-for-3 promotion on select note cards and thank you cards.
Please share your feedback and experiences with gratitude practice and writing thank you notes. Thank you!